What is considered appropriate and polite behavior when dating usually follows general rules. But be careful: if you are dating in other countries, you can quickly put your foot down culturally and make yourself unloved. Jaumo helps singles worldwide to meet new people. In this flirting etiquette we have put together the most important peculiarities when dating in different countries.
If you have a date with a Brazilian, you should be prepared to receive many compliments. Non-Brazilians, so-called “gringos”, should refrain from too much flattery from Brazilian women, because otherwise they quickly awaken the character of just looking for a quick flirt. In a relationship, it’s common in Brazil to show mutual affection in public. The family plays a very big role in Brazil. While getting to know the partner’s family in many other cultures means that the relationship becomes something solid, it is completely normal in Brazil to get to know the family shortly after the first meeting.
America basically has very clear dating rules. The most important thing is certainly not to get involved in sex when drunk, as this can quickly have criminal consequences. It is common to date someone and meet other people in parallel. As long as a couple has not agreed to date “exclusively”, it is not an official relationship. Basically, the first date never takes place in a bar. Most of the time the man pays the evening. Many Americans also wait until marriage to have sex. If this is not the case, the rule applies that people sleep together on the third date, otherwise this is a sign of lack of interest for many Americans.
In the Netherlands, equality is a matter of course and is also reflected in dating. There it is completely normal for women to address a man they like. Conversely, foreign women in the Netherlands should not necessarily wait for the man to take the first step. The dress code on the date in the country of pronounced bike culture is rather casual. The invoice is usually split on an appointment.
In France, a kiss basically means: from now on you are a couple. How much later the first sex follows depends on your feeling and does not follow any fixed rules. If a man is interested in a French woman, he invites her on a date. It is quite possible that she will say no at first. However, men should not be put off by this, but show their serious interest and ask again. (Of course, this does not apply to sex and any exchange of tenderness. No means no – in every country in the world!) French are principally very direct. If you want to end a relationship or end the data, clear and frank words help. Simply no longer calling is not enough in France. There are no rules on how long to wait with a call after a date. If you are interested, get in touch.
Japanese culture has many rules of etiquette and courtesy. The same applies to dating. Many Japanese attach great importance to punctuality. So you shouldn’t be late for a date. Basically, a relationship develops very slowly in Japan. First you meet several times in groups with friends. If you are really interested in each other, the actual dating phase begins. This begins with the declaration of “I love you”, as there is no expression for “I like you” in Japan. An important rule in flirt etiquette: couples never show their affection for one another in public.
In Korea, too, it is important to avoid tenderness in public. However, holding hands is tolerated. If you are traveling with friends, you can share the bill, but when it comes to data, one definitely always pays the bill from both, but it is now also customary for men and women to take turns taking over the whole bill. In a relationship, Korea does not count the months or years for anniversaries, but units every 100 days.
In principle, Australians have no rules when it comes to dating. A date usually results from a friendship. A relationship often arises only when there have been further dates, whereby there are no rules about how often it has to be or when you should start sleeping together. Both men and women in Australia are taking the first step to approach someone. Singles often meet up with friends in a straightforward manner. The person who uploaded to a date usually pays the bill. In the meantime, however, it is often common to split the invoice on the date.
Traditional gender roles still play a role in Mexico. It is not uncommon for men to have a macho attitude here, while women are usually expected to emphasize femininity. Women are whistled or called after as a sign of recognition. Of course, such traditional attitudes and behaviors change in the younger generation. Nevertheless, in Mexico the man basically asks the woman about a date and then pays.
It is interesting in Sweden that dates are not referred to as such there. You usually meet up with friends and potential dates a few times for “fika”, a coffee or tea in the afternoon, with which some pastries or sandwiches are also eaten. After a few such meetings, other activities such as cinema, cooking together or visiting a restaurant are planned. But even then, people in Sweden don’t talk about having a date.
Russian traditions of dating include very clear distributions of the roles of men and women. Most of the time the men try to give the woman small gifts on the date and bring flowers (necessarily with an odd number of flowers) or small gifts. Women are held open, heavy bags are removed and there is no question that the man pays the bill. On a date, a Russian woman would find it insulting to be asked to contribute to the bill. The dress code on a date is definitely very chic and women usually wear high heels.